Some Helpful Advice

I noticed these books at work the other day and had to take a peek at them. The language is hilariously uptight, although that's not too surprising for the time period. At one point she refers to sex as "overtures". She must had been a satisfied woman.

Anyway, here are some quotes I thought you might find amusing. These books were written by Blanche Ebbutt in 1913 and while most of her advice is absurdly archaic some of it is rather timeless.

For Wives:

Don't manage your husband too visibly. Of course he may require the most careful management but you don't want your friends to think of him as a hen pecked husband. Above all, never let him think you manage him.

Don't say it's a waste of time to make marmalade at home when you can get it better made from the stores. Your husband and children never like any so well as yours, and it is worth the trouble of making it to see how they enjoy eating it.

Don’t let your husband think it is a matter of indifference to you if he wears his socks wrong side out, or odd boots on his feet. Some men are absent-minded enough even for this; and if they can’t keep a valet, their wives should see that they are dressed properly.

Don't be satisfied to let your husband work overtime to earn money for frocks for you. Manage with fewer frocks.

Don't interpret too literally the 'obey' of the Marriage Service. Your husband has no right to control your individuality.

For Husbands:

Don’t be afraid of lending a hand in the house during a temporary servant difficulty.

Don't be conceited about your good looks. It is more than probable that no one but yourself is aware of them Don't try to be a Sultan. This is the West and you can't shut your wife away from all the other men.

Don't be too exacting about your food. If you can't afford an accomplished cook, don't demand accomplished dishes.